The only thing you need to say to someone who is hurting:

In a recent conversation with a dear friend, we got onto the subject of what happens when people are hurting. My friend is a yoga instructor and her local community recently lost a prominent teacher to a drug overdose, which has spawned important conversations about mental health and community support. Pulling example after example from our own lives, we lamented the frequency with which friends and loved ones unwittingly add to rather than relieve the pain that life’s challenges can usher in.

When someone we love is hurting, it can be incredibly difficult to know what to say. The circumstance in which they find themselves may trigger our own big feelings, which can make the task of being supportive even more difficult. Sadly, many people find themselves isolated during their biggest challenges because the people around them don’t know how to help, and don’t wish to make things worse.

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